Shy kids are not comfortable speaking up
They are often silent, underestimated, or overlooked.
They shy away from speaking up in class and contributing to groups. They find it hard to butt in, to big themselves up, to share their ideas, to say yes to opportunities; to get involved.
Their insights, ideas and solutions stay hidden.
When shy kids are silent everyone misses out.
We need to stop…
- Thinking shy kids are unfriendly or aloof
- Assuming shy kids have nothing to say or contribute
- Suggesting shy kids “stop being so shy”
- Forcing shy kids into situations that cause them anxiety
- Expecting shy kids to contribute in a noisy class when people have to fight to be heard
- Giving opportunities only to those who shout the loudest
- Ignoring kids who don’t blow their own trumpet
- Trying to change shy kids into something they are not, rather than appreciating what they are…
Shy kids have super powers
Shy kids are not broken. They don’t need fixing. Or to change who they are.
They are more considered. Quiet observers. Deeper thinkers. Good listeners.
This leads to observations, insights, ideas, different perspectives and solutions.
But, shy kids are quiet and they often find it hard to speak up.
The may find it hard to disagree, to stand up and share their ideas, to voice their opinions.
In a culture where the loudest voices are dominant, quieter kids are not able to voice their opinions.
They are often silenced. And their brilliant ideas and thoughts are lost.
Unless shy kids feel safe and supported, they will continue to hide.
And their silent potential will stay silenced.
Helping shy people to shine
I’m Nadia Finer, founder of Shy and Mighty. I’m a mindset coach, published author, podcaster and inspiring speaker – specialising in shyness. People call me the Shycologist.
I’m on a softly-spoken mission to help shy people overcome their fears and insecurities so that they can be braver and go bigger, without changing who they really are.
I know what it’s like to struggle with shyness. You see, all my life I’ve had a little voice. Really little. The kind of voice that makes random people tell me that I should be a cartoon voice-over actress. A voice so little that when strangers ring my house phone, they ask me to put my mum on the phone. It’s no wonder I’m often shy and self conscious!
I have spent the last 13 years helping people become braver and more confident so that they can achieve more in their work and life.
I’m the author of More to Life Than Shoes and Little Me Big Business. I’ve travelled the world, speaking at international conferences, and have appeared in the Guardian, Radio 4, Entrepreneur.com, The Telegraph, The Independent, HR Magazine and on BBC Radio London.
Online Program: Mighty Mob
The Mighty Mob is a membership for kids who identify as shy, and who want to feel braver, more able to speak-up, more able to join-in, and more comfortable being themselves. Here’s how it works:
- Every week I set a new Mighty Mission. These are tasks designed to stretch the courage of our Mobsters, and are things that can be incorporated into everyday life.
- When a Mobster has completed their mission they report back to me via our online platform.
- Completed missions earn the Mobster points and badges.
- The points help the Mobster notice week-on-week how much they’ve progressed, by successfully completing these tiny, manageable acts of courage.
These kid-friendly missions will challenge them to work with their shyness. To speak up while honoring that shy part of themselves. To take tiny brave steps to join in, while acknowledging that it takes courage, and to do so.
Annual license: £450
Despite my nerves and shyness, I speak regularly in schools across the country.
Shy people don’t need fixing. We don’t need to change who we are. But, in a world filled with noise and hot air, we need to embrace who we are, stop hiding and start speaking up. No more feeling overpowered, underestimated or overlooked!
My style is real, open and funny and I aim to give kids the softly spoken support and encouragement they need to coax them out of the shadows and steadily towards their goals.
My little voice made me want to live my life in the shadows. But rather than hiding behind my insecurities, I’ve discovered how to become shy and mighty; and become, not only a successful entrepreneur, author, podcaster and international speaker, but possibly the least likely boxer ever to step foot into the ring!
Assembly: Starting from £250
Assembly plus teachers’ workshop: Starting from £450
I share Shycology strategies that shy kids can implement right away to help them take baby steps to becoming more mighty… as well as showing parents and teachers how they can help to nurture their shy kids.
Mighty Meet Ups are specially designed to help shy kids:
- Learn specific techniques to help overcome the aspects of shyness which are holding them back.
- Become more comfortable speaking up in class and sharing their ideas and presenting their work.
- Connect with their unique voice – rather that trying to be something they are not
- Take small steps towards their goals in a safe, supportive environment
- We recommend weekly sessions for maximum impact
- Sessions take place online
- From £120 per session
I work in small groups, of up to 8 kids, to ensure even the most shy participants feel comfortable and supported.
As Seen In:
“You are such an inspiration. A little voice really can change the world.”
“Nadia Finer is a phenomenal inspiration for young people. I loved hearing her techniques for re-framing your fears and embracing the thing that makes you unique. Her talk was especially moving for those who struggle to find a space for their quiet voice to be heard.”
“We thought Nadia was very good. She met the students where they were and gave a really inspirational talk. The students responded really well to her as did the parents. We were very impressed. Thank you!”
“Thank you for the great session today. As someone who struggles to speak to people, (small groups and large ones) I found your talk really inspiring.”