Shy kids are not comfortable speaking up

They are often silent, underestimated, or overlooked.

They shy away from speaking up in class and contributing to groups. They find it hard to butt in, to big themselves up, to share their ideas, to say yes to opportunities; to get involved.

Their insights, ideas and solutions stay hidden.

When shy kids are silent everyone misses out.

We need to stop…

  • Thinking shy kids are unfriendly or aloof
  • Assuming shy kids have nothing to say or contribute
  • Suggesting shy kids “stop being so shy”
  • Forcing shy kids into situations that cause them anxiety
  • Expecting shy kids to contribute in a noisy class when people have to fight to be heard
  • Giving opportunities only to those who shout the loudest
  • Ignoring kids who don’t blow their own trumpet
  • Trying to change shy kids into something they are not, rather than appreciating what they are…

Shy kids have super powers

Shy kids are not broken. They don’t need fixing. Or to change who they are. 

They are more considered. Quiet observers. Deeper thinkers. Good listeners.

This leads to observations, insights, ideas, different perspectives and solutions.

But, shy kids are quiet and they often find it hard to speak up.

The may find it hard to disagree, to stand up and share their ideas, to voice their opinions.

In a culture where the loudest voices are dominant, quieter kids are not able to voice their opinions.

They are often silenced. And their brilliant ideas and thoughts are lost.

Unless shy kids feel safe and supported, they will continue to hide.

And their silent potential will stay silenced.

Helping shy people to shine

I’m Nadia Finer, founder of Shy and Mighty. I’m a mindset coach, published author, podcaster and inspiring speaker – specialising in shyness. People call me the Shycologist.

I’m on a softly-spoken mission to help shy people overcome their fears and insecurities so that they can be braver and go bigger, without changing who they really are.

I know what it’s like to struggle with shyness. You see, all my life I’ve had a little voice. Really little. The kind of voice that makes random people tell me that I should be a cartoon voice-over actress. A voice so little that when strangers ring my house phone, they ask me to put my mum on the phone. It’s no wonder I’m often shy and self conscious!

I have spent the last 13 years helping people become braver and more confident so that they can achieve more in their work and life.

I’m the author of More to Life Than Shoes and Little Me Big Business. I’ve travelled the world, speaking at international conferences, and have appeared in the Guardian, Radio 4, Entrepreneur.com, The Telegraph, The Independent, HR Magazine and on BBC Radio London.

Staff Training

This workshop will improve your team’s understanding of shyness, and the challenges shy people face. It will provide you all with practical tips and techniques to help you nurture shy students, so that they can step out of the shadows into their full potential.

  • Increase awareness and understanding of shyness
  • Discover strategies to help you better support your shy students
  • Learn tools and techniques to help shy students understand and work with their shyness

Lunch and learn session: £250 / 2 hour workshop: £450

Parent Workshop

How can I help my shy child? This online workshop will help parents understand shyness and support their shy children. Our aim is to help young people step out of the shadows, and achieve their full potential, without changing who they really are.

Learn strategies that parents can implement right away to support their shy children. Discover tips and techniques that shy young people can use to take control of their own shyness, making their lives happier now, and for the future.

From £250

Mighty Mob: Group Mentoring

The Mighty Mob group mentoring program for primary age kids who identify as shy, and who are struggling to speak up and find their voice in the classroom setting.

  • Six sessions per term
  • Groups of 4-6 pupils

Each week pupils will discuss and participate in a Mighty Mission. These are tasks designed to stretch the courage of our Mobsters, in a safe and comfortable way.

These kid-friendly missions will challenge them to work with their shyness. To speak up while honoring that shy part of themselves. To take tiny brave steps to join in, while acknowledging that it takes courage, and to do so.

Mobsters will work on developing

  • Confidence and self-esteem
  • Social and friendship skills
  • Bravery and risk taking
  • Communication skills
  • Resilience

From £500 per term per group – for 6 consecutive sessions

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Online Program: Mighty Mob

The Mighty Mob is a membership for kids who identify as shy, and who want to feel braver, more able to speak-up, more able to join-in, and more comfortable being themselves. Here’s how it works:

  • Every week I set a new Mighty Mission. These are tasks designed to stretch the courage of our Mobsters, and are things that can be incorporated into everyday life.
  • When a Mobster has completed their mission they report back to me via our online platform. 
  • Completed missions earn the Mobster points and badges.
  • The points help the Mobster notice week-on-week how much they’ve progressed, by successfully completing these tiny, manageable acts of courage.

These kid-friendly missions will challenge them to work with their shyness. To speak up while honoring that shy part of themselves. To take tiny brave steps to join in, while acknowledging that it takes courage, and to do so.

Annual School License: £1200

Student Workshops

Helping young people understand and work with their shyness.

Our aim is to help young people step out of the shadows, and achieve their full potential, without changing who they really are.

Nadia shares strategies that students can implement right away so that they can start taking control of their shyness.

This one off session will also help raise awareness of shyness amongst children who do not consider themselves to be shy.

From £250 

One to One Mentoring

One to one coaching sessions to help young people step out of the shadows and overcome the elements of their shyness that are holding them back so that they are better able to speak up, share their opinions and present their ideas. We use a tailored approach, following the Shycology System, and taking into account the context and needs of the individual.

  • Explore and overcome the situations they find most challenging
  • Figure out how to make these situations more comfortable
  • Find their voice in different scenarios e.g. presentations, public speaking, teamwork
  • Identify opportunities to have a greater impact, in a way that is comfortable
  • Work out paths and strategies that work for them
  • Take small steps towards their goals in a safe, supportive environment

Sessions can take place in the school or online via Zoom.

Coaching programs run termly or for a full academic year, with 45 min sessions each week, during term time.

Term fee per student – for 10 sessions: £550
Annual contract for 1 session per week: £1500

As Seen In:

“You are such an inspiration. A little voice really can change the world.”

Student

“Nadia Finer is a phenomenal inspiration for young people. I loved hearing her techniques for re-framing your fears and embracing the thing that makes you unique. Her talk was especially moving for those who struggle to find a space for their quiet voice to be heard.”

Emma Russo

Teacher, South Hampstead High School

“We thought Nadia was very good. She met the students where they were and gave a really inspirational talk. The students responded really well to her as did the parents. We were very impressed. Thank you!”

Naomi Ross

Head of Sixth Form, Loreto College

“Thank you for the great session today. As someone who struggles to speak to people, (small groups and large ones) I found your talk really inspiring.”

Student

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